Ladies, pay attention!
How To Get Him HOOKED, and Keep Him Forever:
*DISCLAIMER** THIS WILL BOND YOUR MAN DEEPLY TO YOU. USE THIS ETHICALLY AND RESPONSIBLY.
I will begin this by saying, there is a very real divine aspect to love. It IS NOT and CANNOT be fully understood by science.
However, let’s explore the intelligence of nature:
So much can be explained by understanding neurochemistry.
Men and women bond (primarily) in very different ways.
For women, the main neurochemical that drives bonding and attachment is OXYTOCIN.
Oxytocin visual image: two people cuddling and gently stroking each other.
“Come close, you are safe with me.”
Oxytocin is released in the brain during physical touch, eye contact, tribal behaviours that foster emotional closeness like sharing secrets and gossiping, HUGE amounts released during orgasm (fellas take note, no O = weak bond), HUGE amounts are released during childbirth to deeply imprint bond between mother and baby. Etc.
Oxytocin is NOT the primary bonding neurochemical for men.
Which explains why men and women typically respond to sex in very different ways.
It is much easier for men to have “casual” sex.
It is entirely possible for men to have sex with a girl and walk away without feeling any strong attachment. It is leagues harder for women to do that. (Must consider social factors) A lot of wiring goes into the equation, but response to oxytocin is a hugely important reason for this.
Men, on the other hand, primarily bond through the release of VASOPRESSIN.
Vasopressin visual image: A mummy and daddy elephant standing in front of a baby elephant to defend their little one.
“you are mine to protect, and I will hold the perimeter.”
Vasopressin is released in the brain after having emerged from victory together after struggle, anything that enforces “us vs them” mentality, anything that enforces a clear identity of protector and protectee.
Think of a man’s closest relationships across his whole life:
Men that fought in wars together, athletes of the same sports team, fellow members of a fraternity.
In all cases, they underwent a shared struggle and emerged victorious. Vasopressin is released through tribal contribution and in the BASKING OF the conclusion of a shared effort.
SEX is an especially bonding experience because it offers opportunities for the release of the main bonding neurochemical for both genders:
Women, in the touching of their erogenous zones, stimulation of the clitoral tissue and anterior vaginal wall, and orgasm.
Whereas for Men, ladies, it is crucial that you have him lay with you and cuddle afterwards. Without basking in the afterglow together, you are missing out on triggering so much vasopressin! He might say he loves you, but it means nothing unless you are activating his brain chemicals!
Fellas, if, for whatever reason… you want to minimise attachment in sexual encounters. Nut and then LEAVE ASAP.
Ok, back to the main topic at hand.
Initially I was going to do a full write up on this, and it was going to be rather dark but I’m running out of space in this post…
In essence, ladies, to get him HOOKED… what you need to do is create circumstances in which you give him missions, trigger his protector identity, reward it, AND, have a shared enemy, struggle together, and come out the other side victorious and soothe his battle scars.
*Practical tips*
Ask him to open a mayonnaise jar.
Accuse random men that pass by of grabbing your ass.
Throw a brick through your window. Works better if you live alone, but also works if living together. Take a photo from inside and panic to him over text. You want to spike his cortisol sky high. Scream at him for help in all caps and then spam call him until he answers. Tell him you’re so scared and need him to come home ASAP. When he gets home, cry and tell him how thankful you are that he’s there to protect you.
Give him a head massage after a long day at work
RAN OUT OF SPACE. YOU’RE WELCOME!
